Transforming Relationship Karma
Another aspect of karma which is often misunderstood is this: we often think our karma is something outside of us. However, someone else’s behavior is not your karma. Your karma is that you don’...t know how to deal with their behavior. You can’t handle their behavior. You respond in the wrong way to their behavior. That’s your problem. Your behavior is your karma. Sometimes we may think that we are a terrible person if we have someone in our environment who is a terrible person. That’s not true. They are a terrible person in their own right!
The question is, why are you suffering? You have the karma to be with that person, but they were going to be that way anyway. You didn’t make them that way. Ask yourself why are you unable to deal with that person. Why does that person make you angry? Why do you let that person make you unhappy? In such a case, you have the karma to be unable to handle these things in your environment. That is your problem.
When you chant daimoku to be able to handle that person; to be able to grow and be stronger than that person so that you are no longer affected, then it no longer affects you. You’ve transformed your environment.
Source: SGI-USA Vice General Director Greg Martin
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